Letting go to Receive His Love

I have found the very place Father wants to upgrade me in experiencing His love is often the place I am holding on to.  We have four core needs in our life:  Unconditional Expressed Love, Security/Safety, Value/Identity, and Purpose/Adventure.  When our core needs are met than we experience being loved, when our one or more of our needs go unmet we experience an emptiness.  Since life (being loved) is rooted in our needs being met, if we are not receiving Father's love in an area then we have a deficit and the flesh rises up to meet that need.  Heidi Baker once said, "Love is a need met."  Holy Spirit has revealed to have one or more of your core needs not met as you grow is the place you not only have a deficit but a wound.  Unmet needs for a length of time in childhood produce a wound, it is in the wounds that identity becomes distorted (believe lies).

I was realizing this as Father has been bringing me to a point to letting go of all attempts to get security outside of Him.  Father's love fills our deepest core needs but it also means death to all the ways we have been seeking to meet our need our own way.  Romans 6 that says our "old self" is dead, this is all our orphan living and thinking.  Since losing my earthly father at age 6 and having a single mother raise me, my need for security was shaken to the very core.  Father's invitation to me is to receive the security and safety of being a son because I have been placed "in Christ".  No wander rest has been difficult for me, since it seems that flesh often rises up to meet this need for security.

It seems we must be brought to the end of ourselves (our way of meeting our need) either by circumstances or the revealed Word.  Jesus said it clearly in Matthew 16:25, "For whoever is bent on saving his [temporal] life [his comfort and security here] shall lose it [eternal life]; and whoever loses his life [his comfort and security here] for My sake shall find it [life everlasting]."  The word first used in this passage about "his life" is for the soul.  We must be willing to lose our soul life to receive the life Jesus offers.  Holding on to our soul life is filling our four basic needs based on an orphan heart, instead of receiving the filling of our needs in Father's love. 

The life Father gives us "in Christ" is so much better, yet unseen in our lives till we are willing to give ourselves to love.

Growing in His Love,
Bret